How to pick up your Bartender

Gentlemen, whether you’ve noticed it or not, most times some of the hottest girls in the bar are usually at the bar, working.
They are the bartenders, the beautiful, sexy women, with the high-heeled boots, low cut tank tops, and absolutely sumptuous bodies. They’re the ones with sexy smiles, the fiery eyes, and those curvy lips, pouring your drink, getting you drunk.

Too many times, you look but don’t act. Too many times men realize that’s the girl they want, but because she’s behind the bar, she’s somehow off limits. It’s as if for most men the bar is police tape, signaling anything behind it is out of bounds. My friends, nothing could be further from the truth, in fact, this fallacy actually makes it easier to pick up bartenders. The truth is most bartenders are single and will hook up with a patron if he plays his cards right. She’s waiting for someone to talk to HER!

How do I know this? I’ve done it and I’ve seen friends do it and each time there’s some consistencies to each story. Firstly, most of the time the story starts out with ” I was really drunk and…” as industry professionals, that’s a given.

The next part of the story usually goes something like, “I couldn’t stop staring at the Bartender who was smoking hot, she smiled at me, so I just started talking to her…”

You see that? A lot of times she’ll give YOU the cue. Sometimes you have to Pony up and make your own, but like I said, most guys are too intimidated by the girl behind the bar to make proper moves or to say anything other than “You’re so gorgeous baby”, because she’s 5’10 with a perfect figure and face and D cups, so she’s never heard that one before.

Personally, I approach the situation like any other situation when trying to pick up a woman. You stick to your style, for me, it’s humor with a pinch of charm and a friendly smile. For other guys, it’s different. Whatever it is, stick to the script. I have a friend whose asshole demeanor rakes the girls in, they even call him an asshole as he’s taking them home! You can be a likable asshole, as long as they realize that’s just who you are. I call it being a straight shooter.

Keep in mind the bartender is at work, and you’re biggest competition is usually that guy in uniform who seems to have his eyes all over you. Yeah, I’ve come to realize that one of the reasons most guys work in a club is to screw the bartenders, so they don’t like it too much when a guy with confidence leans over the bar and starts rapping. Think about the hours a bartender works, her only social life is usually within the confines of that bar. Instead of seeing this as a barrier, it’s an advantage, think of it as you’re the new guy on the block, you’re about to be the new and exciting guy she met last night at work when she talks to her friends.

Sealing the deal is always the toughest part. And too many men lose their confidence because they are unable to seal the deal or because the woman wouldn’t give you her number. That’s not always your fault. For all you know, her ex-boyfriend is the male bartender who is giving you the cut eye at the other end of the bar, she doesn’t want to have to deal with his bullshit for the rest of the night and week after you walk away, like I said, the club is her social life. So one of the methods that has always worked for me and from other people I’ve talked to who pick up bartenders on the regular, is The Walk Back method. Okay you broke the ice, made her laugh, had a good, solid quick convo, it’s not always the best call to go for the “So can I get your number” kill shot right away. Let the work you just put in marinate a little. Leave the scene, go flirt and pick up other girls, enjoy your night. And then at an opportune time, I usually do it 10- 15 minutes before I’m about to leave the bar, you head back to the bartender and make your final move.

Sometimes this can lead to you actually taking her home with you, or heading back her place, but remember you’ll have to stick around while she closes which takes for fucking ever! Most times if you play it right, as in “Honestly, you’re the only person I’ve enjoyed talking to all night” type smooth, you’ll usually be able get that number when you ask for it. If you don’t get it, try the beer tub girl.

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